Last night before going to bed, I made a Facebook post that I am still pondering this morning…

“When you are secure in your true identity, opinions don’t distract you so much, not even your own…”

In today’s world of technology, comparison is a subtle but ongoing reality whether you think about it or not. Of course with comparison comes opinion. The suggestive nature of marketing creates an opinion and then when you look at your life, you create an opinion which may or may not serve you well.

I had to stop and ask myself, who or what am I comparing my life and success? Then I realized that there is a difference between opinion and honest feedback! Yes, I have let people’s opinions sway me from time to time, but for the most part don’t take them personally since I learned what they are…

Purposing to receive feedback in various areas of my life helps me to focus on things that help me grow, which does not allow time to focus on opinions so much.

People that are learning to be secure in their identity seek honest feedback from time to time. This exchange of ideas is much different than hearing random opinions, because the purpose is for personal growth.

Food for thought…

  1. What might life look like, being secure in your identity?
  2. Do you seek honest feedback for the purpose of personal growth?
  3. Who or what are you comparing your life too? Do you like the results?
  4. What is one thing you will do different as a result of reading this post?


Wisdom for Leaders

Honor and Respect

Leaders are stewards of people. Young leaders should consider the worth older generation bring to them and the organization. They can be the difference-maker in the young leader’s ability to lead others. Like wise, older leaders need to listen to new ideas from the younger leaders and openly discuss possibilities. HONOR and RESPECT are essential values! How do team members see these qualities in your day to day actions?

Five common mistakes…

Ignore generational differences.

  1. Determine to learn all you can from young ingenuity and years of proven experience.
  2. Learn what motivates the other generation.
  3. Learn how their views differ from your views.
  4. Learning about generational differences will help you become a better leader even if you are soon ready to pass the torch.

Ignore experience or potential innovative ideas

  1. Honor experience and a proven track record, while keeping an open mind
  2. Each team member brings value to the team.
  3. Ask each other questions and dream together.
  4. Before making major decisions, get input to be sure to each side of the generational coin is heard.

Ignore their historical knowledge.

  1. Treasure it. History can be a teacher or a prison.
  2. There is great worth in the personal knowledge of an organization’s history.
  3. Knowing the history of an organization, its past decision-making, and its people helps you avoid future mistakes. (If you are willing to learn!)
  4. You are either a prisoner of “your way” or an open-minded pioneer.

Ignore what they can do that you can’t do.

  1. Instead, recognize how they can help you lead.
  2. Those of older generations often have significant relational capital that can only come with tenure.
  3. A younger generation can make connections to younger generations that will help bring sustainability.

Ignore each other’s perspective.

  1. Instead, pay attention with a listening ear to learn.
  2. Having older generation team members can be stabilizing, unless they need to control because of fear or pride.
  3. To simply dismiss a team member because of age is a huge mistake.

Whether you are older or younger,  leading or following, honor and respect are essential values that help keep the relationship on the same path.

Blessings on your day, Rob