Clarity of Belief
Last week when we were discussing Clarity of Emotions the topic of lies emerged. I find it interesting how every individual has the capability to look at the same information or circumstance and come up with different points of view, description or outcome.
The way you see life is directly related to what you believe. For example, if you believe that “life is hard” then there is a very good chance that everything you set out to do will be challenging in someway.
Lies have a subtle way of clouding your thinking because they are part of your belief system. Unless we take time to do an honest assessment about what we are thinking and why, there is no chance for positive change. Everything You Believe is “your truth”, but unfortunately not necessarily factual or beneficial.
For years I believed that other leaders are more important than me. That “belief” doesn’t sound too bad, right, because some leaders just have more responsibility. That belief held me back from taking the risks necessary to expand my influence as a consultant, coach and speaker. This way of thinking begs for comparison which was an enemy of my true identity. (We will talk about comparison in more detail sometime)
The good news is that when I saw the negative affects of “my truth” it was easy to identify the lie. It was at that point that a new found freedom of personal “belief” could be realized and the ability to take new risks in leadership became possible!
Exposing a lie is very hard to do by just thinking because we are so used to listening to the “belief system” we set up from the time we are born. This is why we needed to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. Just adding truth to your data base of thinking does not automatically change your belief system. What beliefs that were there first are the default place to go.
What you believe shapes your view of life, relationships, God, success and every other aspect of life. What you actually believe is evident by pattern of results you experience. Yes, there are circumstances outside of your control that impact your life, like the regulations of the IRS that require you to pay taxes. If I believe that the IRS is just out to get me, then I have a fear based belief that will negatively impact my life. For me to say there is corruption in that system is an observation, not necessarily a lie I believe.
I realize this topic is deep, so let’s continue the discussion next week. Be sure to leave me comments about your experiences with lies or ask questions that will help me with my next blog post!