Today’s post is much different than I expected and perhaps for good reason because I am not sure how many people stop to think about “who is in my life and why are they here?” A second part to this topic is, “who is missing in my life and why?”
CLARITY OF RELATIONSHIPS is essential to living out the destiny God has for your life. Every relationship is either adding value to your life because of a defined purpose or stealing time for you for some reason or another.
When you have the ability to serve someone with your time, treasure or talents you have purpose in that relationship. The opposite is equally true, when someone chooses to serve you in their unique ways there is purpose in relationship.
Who is in your life and why are they there? Perhaps taking a few minutes to create a list of people with whom you relate will help shed some light on the question? Some people on your list will be very obvious and practical, like your vehicle mechanic and your dentist. But what about the people that are co-dependent in nature or worse yet toxic in some way? Why do you let them steal away your time and energy?
Don’t get me wrong, all people have value and purpose, but not all people are your responsibility. I know this topic can get touchy, but if you want to live in freedom and be a good steward of your time then keep on reading.
Time is your only un-renewable resource and if you were to give account for who is using your time and why, what might that report look like? If I am not helping someone grow or helping them in some practical way, then I may have unknowingly shifted into an unhealthy co-dependent relationship with them.
Codependent relationships actually feed off of each other’s weaknesses. Interdependent relationships feed off or each other’s strengths.
It is not mean to reset an unhealthy relationship, as a matter of fact it is an important action step to take for the emotional and mental health of each individual. God always has the welfare of people in mind which includes bringing the right people into a person’s life for each challenge they face. If “fear” will not allow you to release a person or at the very least, schedule less time with them, you could be standing in the way of God’s provision.
As you look at your list, pray and invite Holy Spirit to help you to be honest about each relationship. He will help you to find a path forward that may not be pain free, but it will eventually result in freedom for you both!
Who is missing in your life and why? This question is best answered when you have CLARITY OF PURPOSE which we talked about on August 3, 2016.
When your purpose is clear, then you will see who/what is missing. For example, I am in a new season of personal development and professional development. I am praying and asking Holy Spirit to reveal people with common vision and values and the right skill sets to be friends in the journey.
I am missing, editors, graphic designers, web masters, marketers and a ministry team to name a few! Without developing healthy relationships in these areas, the forward momentum we have been experience will quickly fade.
With clarity of relational needs, God is bringing people into my life with skills, gifts and talents to be part of the team. Perhaps you are one of them?
Maybe we will need to continue this discussion next week? I am curious about your questions and reactions to this post, so type away in the comment section and Let me know if you need help!